Soft and lacy porn for soft and lacy people

[imomus]

"I like it when you write about food, fashion or porn," commented obelia after entries on South Korean porn stats and a Hokkaido "pudding factory". So here, for the girls, is another porn entry.

A friend wrote to me yesterday drawing my attention to a Japanese porn video series called MOMUSTYLE. There's even a film billed as Airi Momose in MOMUSTYLE, which is funny because it sounds like "Hairy Momus in MOMUSTYLE" (a tape I'm sure very few people would buy).



Now, I'm not sure why this series is called MOMUSTYLE -- perhaps it's meant to evoke teen girlband Morning Musume, since the blurb promises "more beautiful and younger girls than ever!!" But while, on purely textual criteria, Airi Momose in MOMUSTYLE may veer close to me, texturally this porn is not at all my cup of hot milk. For a start, there's no mosaic censorship sprinkling pixel-dust over the genitals, and I find porn with mosaics much sexier than porn without. Because taboo creates desire in a teasing dialectic; as I was thinking to myself yesterday, sitting opposite some stranger's vagina in the sauna, it's clothes that create nakedness.

"Thanks for the amusing URL, but I'm more of a Fairy Doll man myself," I wrote back to my friend.

Fairy Doll is a porn series from a Japanese company called Smiley. It's been running for five years and has reached its 40th tape (not including the gansha compilations, sequences of facial comeshots as disappointingly exciting, perhaps, as a penalty shoot-out or a diet of straight ice cream for a week -- after a while the patterns created by the spattering sperm become gestural paintings, pearly white on a flesh-coloured canvas).



The Fairy Doll formula is now pretty well established. It seems to be made by one person with quite a clear aesthetic mission. The girls have to be very young and pure-looking. They have to dress in a style that veers between Gothic Lolita, Maid Cafe (Hisae thinks the Smiley company may actually run maid cafes, or be affiliated with such a chain), Ballet Dancer and, well, Fairy. They have to submit to sex with a certain air of theatrical puzzlement and passivity, occasionally to feign a tear, and sometimes to have their necks gently squeezed (whether to increase their sexual pleasure or darken the scene with a shadow of cruelty isn't quite clear, but this company also retails a line of shibari rope play disks).

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If Hisae is right that these girls are recruited from a Maid Cafe, they've been pre-selected to appeal to the kind of shy, nerdy boys who frequent such places. Their softness, ultra-femininity and compliance appeals to men who find some corollary, in the girls' exaggerated and slightly ingenue and naive shyness, to their own. This, then, is soft (and lacy) porn for soft (and lacy) people, and I suppose that's what brings it closer than MOMUSTYLE to Momus style.

Comments

[zzberlin.livejournal.com]

<< I want laughter in the bedroom, and an active female partner! What you describe are scenes of female degradation, sex as a revenge fantasy. I find it morbid and terribly un-sexy >>

We will always have degradation of women in porn, until and unless we can get women to want sex as much as men do. The degradation happens because men are frustrated by the power women hold over them, sexually. No one is too blame for this, except possible those women who consciously exploit and perpetuate this power imbalance

When I've written before that such difficult porn would drop away if women wanted more sex, I've been told I was "anti-woman" or some such, because I suggest that we would have fewer problems if women did things differently. But the way I see it, if we want to try to eliminate degrading porn, we can either try to get men to want less (hetero, here) sex, or try to get women to want more. I think sex is mostly good so I don't think we should discourage men sexually, I think we should look at why women (U.S., hetero) don't want as much sex as their partners, and figure out if we can do anything about that

Then there is the question of why some (many?) powerful women fantasize about degradation, domination, and rape. We are up in arms when men degrade women in their fantasy/porn, but what to say when women degrade themselves, in similar ways, in their own fantasies?

It's confusing. Even if we could encourage women past the cultural barriers to having more sex, I think there is still a biological difference to sex-seeking in men and women. So I'm not sure we will ever get to a point where we have sexual parity, and the negative porn drops away

[(Anonymous)]

A female fantasy of domination and force (it may be a politically tricky area but in many surveys I've seen - by decent enough sources - it does feature) is probably tied in with the same cultural barriers/shame - they remain 'innocent' by having something done to them. Also, like being a 'sub' in a sub-dom relationship (of whichever gender) - there is an actual feeling of being desired. It may be control desire or power desire as much as body desire, but some people are cool with that, or even need it, in consenting circumstances.

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[zzberlin.livejournal.com]

What I've read about the female desire to be dominated in sexual fantasy is that these women tend to have rather passive partners, and also tend to be the boss in the workplace. They just get tired of telling other people what to do all the time, and the fantasy is a release from that

The book I read (sorry, have forgotten the title) was by an M.D. who was primarily working with women that weren't happy with their fantasies and desires for domination. In one case, by helping the woman help her partner IRL assert himself more, she was able to stop being so much the boss in the partnership, and this changed her sexual desire for domination, gradually

In the past, I'd say about 10% of my sexual fantasies involved my being degraded. But then I decided to start acting on my fantasies; I got tired of having fantasies I never acted on. As I got closer to a sexual situation in which I was to be degraded (I was trying to set something up), I realized, gosh, I don't really want to be degraded in real life. I don't really want this scenario to happen

And then there were no more degradation fantasies in my imagination

It's weird, you read something like "The Erotic Core" and you realize how nearly impossible it is to change one's sexual desires. Yet by approaching something in my fantasy life, and realizing I didn't want it, my erotic core changed just a little bit

Re: Right

[(Anonymous)]

Same here. Tried some things, didn't like some of them. Trying them changes you because you've eternalized the wish. Yeah, sexualities are a nest for other desires with no home (paternal/maternal/child instincts, work issues, religious even..)

Re: Right

[me-vs-gutenberg.livejournal.com]

I suppose it's safe to assume that a good deal of those rather unpleasant sexual phantasies are the result of a certain fear, perhaps self-loathing, that can be overcome by exploring and getting to know one's sexuality. On the other hand it seems to me that overcompensation through self-denigration must be terrifically detrimental to one's happiness. It sounds as though you deserve praise for undertaking the former and avoiding the latter.

Re: Right

[(Anonymous)]

Well, kinkiness doesn't have to be pathology. It can simply be sex which involves all the faculties - mind and body, imagination and intellect, 'heart' and 'soul' - create sexual theatre around the bond, rather than try to find it in an orgasm. That's a lot of pressure to put on an orgasm!

Why would someone actually want to be submissive? Well, according to the literature:

Luxury of giving up responsibility
Feeling small/childlike/helpless again
Enjoy pain/fear endorphins
Enjoy bringing out someone else's imagination
Enjoy the strength of feeling and focus
Reenact issues to deal with them and control them

[z111.livejournal.com]

Oh for fuck's sake -- literally....people's fantasies are their own and they rarely have a rhyme or reason to them. What turns me on may not be what turns you on, but I resent your attempts to pathologize me and others like me.

I like my sex and my porn dirty, filthy and nasty. My sex is mixed with death. If yours is laughter and light, good on you, but leave the armchair psychoanalysis out of it.