"We fail because we make important life-seasonal transitions secretive, leaving them for individuals to discover and cope with in solitude (perhaps with the aid of therapy or art or the occasional parental lecture) rather than providing something as joyful as a festival or ritual for it."
Absolutely. I'd love to live in a world where the sexual Xmas trees happened and were cute and fun, and not scary/pervy/shocking. In my family, which is all girls, we had a 'first bra' ritual that involved a fancy tea in town as well as bra-choosing, and it's now happening with the second generation, which is also all girls. I don't know what we'd have done for boys. The historical option of first sword and pair of breeches might not go down too well these days.
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Date: 2010-02-01 06:01 pm (UTC)Absolutely. I'd love to live in a world where the sexual Xmas trees happened and were cute and fun, and not scary/pervy/shocking. In my family, which is all girls, we had a 'first bra' ritual that involved a fancy tea in town as well as bra-choosing, and it's now happening with the second generation, which is also all girls. I don't know what we'd have done for boys. The historical option of first sword and pair of breeches might not go down too well these days.