On second thought (and third reading of your post) I think I can see a relationship between love, empathy, and altruism. I’m all for altruism, if it isn’t too ascetic… I think you can take self-sacrifice expectations too far (from how much labor devoted to strangers to how much torture one endures for them)… I’m more for improving on adequate… and not transgressing into the unacceptable. (But then again, who defines, “too far,” “adequate,” and “unacceptable?”—there’s a play of common sense and individual sensibility, no?)

I think one needs a bit of empathy for one’s self too, sometimes.

Re: “Naïvety”: I don’t think you need to be intelligent/knowledgeable to be good… why would being intelligently/knowledgeably good be any better? (I hope I’ve provided enough context to even make sense here.)