I think often what seems "real" is just what we're used to.
I think it's true that you'll never be accepted as one of them, but I don't think you should take that as a reason to feel estranged from Japanese people. What might help, though, is some self-deprecation, some dislike of your own culture, even some masochism or voyeurism (put more romantically, some unrequited love. Those states of mind allow you to relish being an outsider. It can give you a certain liberty; you're forever the foolish, selfish foreigner who can't be expectef to comply with all the strict obligations Japanese have.
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Re: life in japan
Date: 2010-01-09 03:11 pm (UTC)I think it's true that you'll never be accepted as one of them, but I don't think you should take that as a reason to feel estranged from Japanese people. What might help, though, is some self-deprecation, some dislike of your own culture, even some masochism or voyeurism (put more romantically, some unrequited love. Those states of mind allow you to relish being an outsider. It can give you a certain liberty; you're forever the foolish, selfish foreigner who can't be expectef to comply with all the strict obligations Japanese have.