imomus

I can appreciate your writing, and I'm a fan of your music, but this entry and specifically your request strike me as sexist, ageist, (weightist?), and in a particular way, even racist (or to clarify that: fetishistic without consequence). Women come in age-brackets other than 16-25. Although you've never explicitly said (that I remember) that's all you want, there's an awful lot of romanticizing of young, Asian women. There is nothing wrong with having a "type," and I find myself dating many boys that look about the same. However, asking for strangers to post random pictures of young thin Asian women you might like crosses a line of "that's my type, I usually date that type" to "that's what I expect, that's what women should be." It objectifies the women involved and reassigns them as fetish objects for you, and I don't think that's what most of these women would want.

There are women who men can carry relationships with that aren't tiny Asian girls. I don't know how old you are and it doesn't bother me that you are attracted to whatever you like in pictures, but it does make a person wonder: When an older, intelligent, attractive, and successful man needs the supply of overwhelmingly younger and specifically trend-beautiful young women, are they trying to compensate for something? If you're afraid of growing older, wouldn't it be nice to have someone your age to share that with you? If you're afraid you're losing your youth, wouldn't someone much younger perpetuate that feeling?

Anyway, I hope I have been respectful in my comment and have not insulted you by encouraging you to look at your privilege or understand it differently. I continue to read your journal and listen to your music and respect you, and see this kind of search for women as objects as a reflection of your hurt. If you want to look at communities that can help you sort through all the -isms I brought up, I have a few on my profile page.

Thanks Momus,
Olivia.